If you want to know just how Richard did it, this is the book for you. Two days later, she went home but all three of them were constantly texting and wanted her to come back. Whatever state your hymen is in could be the exact same state as that of a woman who has never had ANY vaginal insertion OR that of a woman who has had intercourse a bunch of times. To this day it was one of the top 5 most painful experiences of my life. Dr Carpenter says: "People go through all sorts of contortions for the sake of 'keeping' or 'losing' it, rather than focusing on how they'd like their sexual selves and lives to unfold. I was nervous about the whole experience — but in a good way.

Virginity is not something physical or medical. I kissed lots of boys in sixth form, but stayed single and tried not to let it bother me. Any change to your vulva, if there was any change at all, which the insertion of objects made — if any — very well could have happened organically without that. It felt fucking incredible. The reality is that after losing your virginity you are exactly the same person you were before. Before you have sex, your partner needs to know all about consent, too.

I may have been cold, muddy and stung by the nettles, but I could swim. I kicked and writhed around but it was no help. Mike and I messaged for a while, but he soon got a girlfriend and I also met someone new. I didn't love him, I didn't even know what love was even though he was much older than me. Despite her love for Megan and Jacob, several months ago, Gabrielle decided to move to a small apartment nearby to get some independence.

A perennial bestseller — Losing My Virginity is Richard's highly acclaimed autobiography. In some cultures if a woman is found not to be virgin when she "should be", she can be killed. The vagina is not a static thing. Simultaneously sad and funny. Treating virginity as a prize allows society to objectify — and in worse cases kill — women. After all, practice makes perfect.